Last week I had a conversation with my new friend, Famous Dave Anderson, founder of the Famous Dave’s BBQ restaurant chain. I admire his BBQ. He admires my books, particularly, Invaluable.
After he watched my video about disciplining employees last week, he shared with me this insightful metaphor:
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.
-Thich Nhat Hanh
Thanks, Famous Dave!
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